A Depth of Rapport & ConnectionBY BRUCE ANDERSON
I’d always been successful in the business world: an analytical, intellectual, business person managing massive computer projects, moving pieces all over the country and getting them to work. I also worked for years as a consultant. I’m retired now and living in an enchanted forest outside Toronto.
Over the past few years, I found myself engaging with areas that involve energy, relationships, and sexuality. I was in my early 60s, and I noticed that while my interest in sex was going up, my wife's was going down. I knew I needed to do something about it, and that was one of things that brought me to both erotic hypnosis and OM. My wife went from “Jesus Christ, you're always at me” to “Hmm, that was wonderful.”
I’d had Slow Sex ny Nicole Daedone on my bookshelf for years but I hadn't gotten around to reading it. When I did I was shocked. “Holy crap,” I thought. “OM is using the same energy that I'm using in hypnosis. But it accesses it in a completely different way.” Both EH and OM break down our collective belief systems. They are also forms of surrender. The first big taboo that gets broken is it's actually okay to feel sexual energy, interacting with people who are not your lover or whom you are not married. That's scary and taboo for many of us.
I followed the instructions in Slow Sex. My wife’s reaction was, “Oh, that's interesting.” But that was it. It was only when I decided to attend a ten-month program that teaches about OM practice and philosophy, that I began to touch a magic there. Well, it was funny and awkward at first. The practice is done on the floor. I tried to get into the position, and it was challenging. For guys that are six-foot something and do a lot of yoga it’s one thing, but not for a man in his 70s with limited flexibility, like me.
I remember after the first weekend, my coach from the program asked, “What did you learn?” My response was, “Something powerful happened, but I don't know what it was.” I describe it now in terms of working with energy.
As I continued to build my OM practice, frames became an important piece of the energy puzzle. It happened frequently enough that I’d share a frame at the end of an OM, and my partner would say, “Oh, I felt that too.” There was a depth of rapport and connection—relationship—that we entered by way of a wavelength of communication, which happened on a nonverbal level.
OMing regularly brought awareness to my intuition. In the past I didn't know how to tune in or listen to it. OM developed that part of me. I can now choose to be myself. I don't have to pretend to be what others want; and it's okay to continue seeking. It brought me to a place where I can make bold decisions and own them. I’m 77 now, and life just keeps getting better.