It Changed how I was OnstageBY ISHAN MAL
Before I discovered OM, I was getting divorced and was leaving my home. I was lonely, trying to find out who my real friends were going to be in this new stage of life. I was over my ex-wife, but I was very sad about not being with my kids. That was really difficult.
The things I did to find connection just didn't resonate. I tried various online groups and dinners and walks and all those kinds of things. They just didn't touch me in any way, and I was bored by all of them. I was looking for something that would touch me at a deeper spiritual or feeling level, something that would create intimacy in all sorts of ways.
Eventually I found OM online. It wasn't clear that it was a physical practice. But a practice that allowed me to access an orgasmic state through meditation seemed like a very good way of passing the time, so I went to an event. At first, I was reluctant to sign up for an introductory OM session. But for some reason I did.
I remember being very nervous about it. But my first OM my body felt incredibly stiff, and I had to dig deep to feel any sensations. I was feeling a bit awkward and my lower back was really painful, so I wasn't comfortable in the standard OM position. But my partner helped me and showed me an alternative position, and it all ended up being rather fantastic. Without even realizing it, I started to develop a couple of regular OM partners, and that took me deeper. When people started asking me to repeat OM sessions, I realized they weren’t hating this experience with me and that I must be developing some level of competence.
By that time, I was noticing some personal benefits. The first was listening. I realized I was learning to pay exquisite attention to nonverbal and energetic signals—the micro-facial expressions of a woman, the changes in a woman’s genitals … just seeing the color change was an incredible experience.
I started to notice that I was listening better in general. I would let people finish their sentences without jumping in with what I had to say. Then I'd respond to what they'd said rather than spouting out whatever I was intending to say. And it changed my relationship with women. The actual experiences—the level of touch, the level of sensation, that sense of knowing without knowing, of not having to be told what your partner wants next, just following the natural rhythms—that had never happened to me before. I felt so much more connected.
After a while, I literally didn't argue with anyone about anything. OM allowed me to be a lot more tolerant. It changed the way I am around people. My listening, my judgment, my tolerance of what's going on, my capacity to let things go and to laugh at stupid stuff people get upset over—all the things that would have triggered me in the past—I stopped being sucked into all the drama.
I was OMing three or four times a week and really quite into the practice when, at an OM retreat, I cracked open. I could feel at the most incredible level. It was off the charts insane how much I could feel.
I remember OMing with a woman who was having a transcendental experience, and I could feel it. I couldn't describe what was happening to her other than these big waves of energy. Afterward she said she'd witnessed her own birth. And then she'd witnessed her mother's birth. And to be able to access whatever was unlocking in her … obviously I was operating at a whole different level. It got to a point where with quite a few partners, I couldn't actually touch them—the mutual energy was too much. I was often only stroking the air above the clitoris, which was quite weird, but I could still feel sensation and so could they.
I do a lot of public speaking, and I noticed that if I OMed the night before I spoke, or even the morning of my speech, it changed how I was onstage. I was more energized, more vibrant in my presentation, bouncier. I definitely brought a different quality to my audiences.
Then, for no discernable reason, I fell out of the practice for a couple years. I chose to withdraw and hibernate. However, by the beginning of 2016 I had completed a massive tour, speaking and promoting a book, and I was just exhausted. I was totally tapped out. Once I got back home, an old OM partner who lived locally reached out to me and I started the practice again. Three months of OMing regularly brought me back to life. My vibration was higher, my quality of connection with people was better. My self-talk changed. I came back into my body and started to have sensation again. I found myself chilling out.
OM totally refilled the tank, and I realized if I'd carried on with the practice, I probably would have navigated the energetic ups and downs of those years quite differently. Today, I'm very conscious that there's a close correlation between regular OMing and my mood. They feed each other in a good way. Dropping back into the practice was like rediscovering an old and familiar friend.