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From Focusing on Problems to Enjoying Beauty

"I'm a very open-minded person who likes to try different things. Skydiving, bungee jumping—I’ll do it. I’m not afraid. I’ve always been very intens..." READ MORE

Letting Go of Self-Conscious Maneuvering

"I was on a quest to find satisfaction in my relationships with women. As I searched for information on the Internet, I came across groups aimed at ..." READ MORE

Losing The Need to Perform

"I grew up in mid-century Spain during a time when the concept of manhood was deeply rooted in stoicism and misogyny. Young boys and men were not en..." READ MORE

Surrendering to Simplicity

"I have always been a deeply sexual being. Even as a child, I was drawn to exploring that aspect of myself. As a teenager, I was extremely promiscuo..." READ MORE

Taking Up Space

"It’s strange to be doing a story about Orgasmic Meditation, if only because when it came to orgasms, I spent so many of my teen years lying about t..." READ MORE

Creative Freedom

"I was born and raised in a very beautiful part of Germany. My parents were self-made and successful, and my conditioning was very much oriented tow..." READ MORE

Overcoming Sexual Shame from Religion

"I grew up a Fundamentalist Christian in the American South, where sex was reserved for one reason and one reason only: to pop out more Fundamentali..." READ MORE

The Gravity of My Power

"For much of my life, I had difficulty saying what I wanted in relationships. I would get involved in relationships I didn’t want to be in, and then..." READ MORE

Waking Up and Looking Around

"I never used to be able to find relationships that could fulfill my needs. They were all either drama-filled and toxic or boring. A lot of that ste..." READ MORE

The Intelligence Below

"She was the most hot-headed, wild-child chestnut filly I ever worked with in my 50 years of horse training. She didn’t trust me, she didn’t trust o..." READ MORE

Removing the Shame Garbage

"I used to be completely wild and accepting of my sexuality. I could have had sex even if there were priests in the room next door having lunch. But..." READ MORE

My Attention Opens Up Unlimited Experiences

"I started OMing in 2012 after moving to a new city for work. I lived a very intellectual life, and although I had the sense that there was more to ..." READ MORE

Our Greatest Desire is Connection

"I found out about Orgasmic Meditation through a long-time friend of mine who had just recently discovered it himself. He told me it was a 15-minute..." READ MORE

What does it take to be honest

"I’ve always been attracted to things that push the envelope.  I like to take on challenges that scare off other people. In the past, some of that w..." READ MORE

Being Present in My Connections

"When I came to Orgasmic Meditation, I had been practicing Tantra for two decades, so I was no stranger to sacred sexuality practices. I’m always lo..." READ MORE

Closing the Deal

"Sealing the deal has never been my strong suit. I don’t mean in business. In business, I’m pretty good at it, thank goodness. But with women, I’ve ..." READ MORE

OM Made Me A Better Landscape Architect

"I come from a very traditional background. I am a native Sicilian and have lived my whole life in the south of Italy. I come from a long line of ma..." READ MORE

What My Body Tells Me

"Dread fills me as I'm walking down the street, and I see my mother's car parked up ahead at a gas station. She gets out of her car and stumbles tow..." READ MORE

Learning To Give My Body What Makes It Happy

"Before OM, I didn’t even know what I wanted from sex except for it to stop hurting. Not only was it not pleasurable for me—it was painful. I’d lie ..." READ MORE

I Was No Longer Numb

"When I was younger I practiced something not unlike Orgasmic Meditation in a commune in California. Then I started a family and started a law firm,..." READ MORE

A Depth of Rapport & Connection

"I’d always been successful in the business world: an analytical, intellectual, business person managing massive computer projects, moving pieces al..." READ MORE

The Woman I Am

"Before Orgasmic Meditation, I was trying to find a sense of myself and a sense of happiness and joy. I felt stuck around that. Although I was on a ..." READ MORE

Melting Rigidity into Presence and Play

"Before I became involved with erotic practices, I felt rigid and robotic. As a wellness practitioner, I touch people all day for massages, facials,..." READ MORE

From Nice Guy to Honest Man

"The only place I could be honest about my desires was in porn. I’d go home and get drunk and open up my computer and go to town. I spent hours on e..." READ MORE

Valuing my sensitivity

"My whole life, since I was a child, I've had these sensations in my body that tell me what's going on with the people around me. I was a highly sen..." READ MORE

Opening to intimacy

"Before Orgasmic Meditation, intimacy and connection were hidden from me. I wasn’t as authentic, available, or open as I am today. Orgasmic Meditati..." READ MORE

I No Longer Feel Invisible

"I was raised in a fairly religious family. I don’t believe it’s necessarily true of every religious family, but we were very shut down when it came..." READ MORE

Staying With The Sensation

"I grew up in San Francisco. My parents divorced when I was young, and I lived with my mom. My dad was in and out of my life. But my mom and I were ..." READ MORE

Reclaiming My Voice

"Despite the fact I already had 3 kids, I’d just begun to explore my sexuality for the first time when I learned about Orgasmic Meditation. I was re..." READ MORE

A New Level of Self-Possession

"Growing up, I was a chameleon. I wanted to fit in so much that I would try to be whatever other people wanted me to be. Even as I got older, I didn..." READ MORE

I Met My Husband Through OM

"When I began practicing Orgasmic Meditation, I had been searching for a life partner for a long time. I was working with a love coach, and during o..." READ MORE

I Walk With A Different Energy

"I am quite an emotional person. We're all emotional, of course. But whenever I experienced strong emotions and sensations, they could really be ove..." READ MORE

Rediscovering Trust and Connection

"My life was in a nosedive. I was working two jobs, struggling with feelings of chaos and lack of control, and losing my grip on my own life and san..." READ MORE

I Needed to Make Some Noise

"I grew up in a very strong, very Catholic Italian family. It was a boisterous, but tough upbringing. If you did something that was not part of the ..." READ MORE

OM Gave Me the Tools to Be in a Relationship

"I was born and raised in Guatemala. I’m a product of that culture, and I miss it – but I’m a proud New Yorker now.  I’ve been here since I was 19 y..." READ MORE

Opening to Communication

"My biggest challenge dating used to be lack of communication skills. Plus, I was working quite a lot in the music and entertainment field and alway..." READ MORE

I Want Everyone to Have this Freedom

"Before I grew my shell, I had a charmed childhood. I was always empathetic and sensitive, and when I was little, that was a good way to be in the w..." READ MORE

I Discovered Extraordinary Possibilities

"I came to OM at the tail end of a difficult marriage. I’d been married to my husband for more than 10 years, and he had changed me – not for the be..." READ MORE

More Outgoing Now

"College went by in a blur. I liked going to class, but I never did any homework. Even though I didn't like people much, I tried joining a sorority,..." READ MORE

A Life of Freedom

"As a child I had really overbearing, authoritarian parents and was very shut down. When I grew up there was a failure to launch. Even when I had a ..." READ MORE

Releasing the Trauma

"I experienced sexual abuse as a child and had sexual trauma in later life. As a little girl, my mom not only didn't protect me, instead she often s..." READ MORE

Celebratory Moments

"I came into this life with very few appetites. When I was in high school and my first years at college, I had a lot of friends, including male frie..." READ MORE

Releasing Old Baggage And Embracing Myself

"To tell you how OM changed things for me, as a physical therapist living in San Francisco, I would have to go way back—to my birth, 60 years ago, i..." READ MORE

Endless Learning

"I've always been good at being friends with women. My feminine side was cultivated by my sisters and a strong mother, so I know how to be sympathet..." READ MORE

OM Transformed Me and Shifted My Perspectives

"When I tell you OM can change your life, you should believe me.  Why?  Because I’m a workshop junkie, and if there’s a practice that claims to make..." READ MORE

OM Has Given New Meaning to My Relationships

"Opening Up to KnowledgeIn my career, I was used to being in a position of authority. I was a military pilot, and then I flew huge airplanes around ..." READ MORE

Refining My Ability to Observe Details

"I've always been drawn to a wide range of spiritual practices, starting with the Baptist religion of my Midwestern family. When we moved to a town ..." READ MORE

Finding Flow in OM and Life

"I'm a basic kind of guy. Even though I was born with PTSD (based on some things that happened to my mom while she was pregnant), I'm not plagued wi..." READ MORE

The Freedom of Confidence

"I was going through hard times. My marriage and business fell apart. I had had a public relations company for nine years – and I’d been married for..." READ MORE

Being Real

"My parents were kissing. My father dramatically bent my mother over backwards, and she gushed, “Oh, kiss me!” Even though I was only ten years old,..." READ MORE

A Missing Ingredient that Makes it Sing

"“Sit down,” my husband said. I knew something bad was coming.“I’ve found my soulmate,” he said. For a tenth of a second, I thought this was an awkw..." READ MORE

OM Helped Me Feel Worthy of the Healing Process

"I was panicked, angry, and despondent. I’d just gone through another breakup with another boyfriend.  There were many issues, but one was my body. ..." READ MORE

OM Gave Me an Energy that I’ll Never Forget

"The first word that comes to mind to describe my life before OM is “under-nourished.”  I wasn’t miserable, or in some sort of great despair, but I ..." READ MORE

A Search for Intimacy

"I was already in my late 30s when I came to OM. I met some people who were engaged in self-improvement and self-inquiry—people who were wanting to ..." READ MORE

Men Are Vulnerable Too

"My parents grew up in Greece during World War Two. My father was in the underground by the age of 12, living a very adult life. He was a good man, ..." READ MORE

Awkward No More

"Growing up I was pretty sheltered and socially awkward, especially around women. I felt uncomfortable because I just didn't know what to do or say...." READ MORE

Thirst Quenching Honesty

"I’d been doing Information Technology work for years, and I felt stuck. I had always been fascinated by science and technology, and I moved to Aust..." READ MORE

Healed in a way that I hadn’t even realized I needed

"Prior to our divorce. My husband and I had what I can only describe as a very big life. We had a seven-bedroom house on nine acres, a beach house a..." READ MORE

I Grew A Greater Empathy Towards Women

"My partner found Orgasmic Meditation and introduced me to it by sending me an online link. She jumped in and did it before I did and thoroughly enj..." READ MORE

People Relax Around Me Because I’ve Learned To Accept My Own Feelings

"My first experience with OM was with my ex-wife.  We hadn’t contacted anyone for coaching -  we just had a book with a rather vague two-page descri..." READ MORE

The OM Adventure

"My whole life, I've craved adventure and intensity. I joined the Navy because it was the most dangerous job I could find. Like Tom Cruise in Top Gu..." READ MORE

Learning to Let the Love In

"I remember about a year before I started OMing, a friend was telling me about this group that she was going to that was all about authentic relatin..." READ MORE

Staying Conscious In The Rush

"After I graduated college in 2012 I went to work for a Fortune 500 corporation as a software engineer. For as long as I could remember, I had had a..." READ MORE

A Blossoming of the Kind of Intimacy I Always Wanted

"I grew up in a family where women and girls weren't really asked how they felt about anything. What I wanted was not necessarily very important, an..." READ MORE

From Empty to Filled

"When Betty and I started dating, we discovered we had mismatched libidos. During the early years of our relationship, we even joked about it. But e..." READ MORE

Learning To Be Vulnerable To Release Trauma

"Raped at the age of 17, remnants of the trauma still resurfaced even after being married for 29 years. Guilt, shame, fear... trust issues kept haun..." READ MORE

In the Timeless Place

"It was just another day at the computer programming job I'd held for over a decade. I was married, I owned a house, and my life was in order. But t..." READ MORE

Sensitivity as a Guide

"In college, I had to pick two out of three options: getting good grades, having a social life, or sleep. My school was intensely competitive, and I..." READ MORE

I Hear Your Body Speaking

"The clanking of silverware felt like hammers pounding on my head, adding to the ringing in my ears. I stared down at the menu through my hangover f..." READ MORE

More About Connection than Sex

"As weird as it sounds, Orgasmic Meditation was probably the most work I've done sexually speaking. But it was also one of the least sexual things I..." READ MORE

Door of Possibility

"When I was younger, I was fascinated by relationships and sexuality. I even made myself a little “sex ed guide” when I was about 11, making sketche..." READ MORE

The Search for Connection

"When my relationship of four and a half years ended, I acted as though everything was normal. But when I was alone, I felt lost and cried a lot. I ..." READ MORE

From Needing Approval to Offering Confidence

"Despite the fact that I’ve always experienced a lack of confidence in meeting the opposite sex, for some reason I’ve always attracted beautiful wom..." READ MORE

Finding Space to Listen

"In my twenties, after working on a low-budget feature film, I turned to developing an underground theater company into a major regional company. Ou..." READ MORE

The Power of Being in the Present and Exploring New Things

"Before I discovered OM, I was blessed to have been raised by two great parents. I had a wonderful childhood. I was always very involved with religi..." READ MORE

Connection is a muscle I strengthen through OM

"I was trapped.  I realize now I was trapping myself.  Before I found OM, I had a go-to pattern, and it was withdrawal.  My ex would boast to others..." READ MORE

Oh, This is So Beautiful

"For most of my life, I never spoke about my emotions with anyone, even my closest friends. I believed it was weak to be vulnerable about my feeling..." READ MORE

Becoming Visible

"Growing up, visibility was a big issue for me. All my life I felt largely unseen. It was so bad that walking down a city street people would run in..." READ MORE

Craving Deeper Connection

"I have always been sexually curious and adventurous. I even worked as a professional dominatrix for a while. When I was single and hooking up with ..." READ MORE

A Window Opened to Where I Matter

"I grew up in a small town, the elder of two children.  My parents had been childhood sweethearts and had married just out of high school.  We were ..." READ MORE

Finding the Rightness

"I used to be searching for something that would patch up the holes in my life. Essentially, I was trying to find paints and wallpaper to decorate t..." READ MORE

Visceral Connection

"I was in an elevator in downtown San Francisco with my fiancée and her friends when I realized my life needed to change.  I made a joke, something ..." READ MORE

Seeing Through the Veil

"I’m a massage therapist, and I make my living touching people.  I’ll say more about that later, but one key reason I went into massage was because ..." READ MORE

The Carpenter's Touch

"I’ve been OMing for seven years now.  It has changed my life.I’ll admit it, I came to OM because I thought it was a sexual practice.  I came with m..." READ MORE

Lit Up Like Christmas

" In my twenties, I loved being an actor. I loved being in front of a live group of people, connecting to an audience in the immediacy of the moment..." READ MORE

OM Removed Fear And Opened The Door To Intimacy

"My philosophy of life is all about growing, and I've been on a journey of wanting to dig deep. I’ve done Vipassana retreats and meditation and Five..." READ MORE

Immediate & Dramatic Shift

"Before I found the OM practice, my existence occurred in a state of perpetual denial when it came to feeling my own feelings. You could say I was a..." READ MORE

A Union of Logic and Emotion

"Before I discovered OM, I would go on dates, but I couldn’t really connect emotionally with women, even with my girlfriend at the time. I would hav..." READ MORE

OM Helped Me Step Outside Of My Comfort Zone And Into My Life

"When I discovered orgasmic meditation in my late 30s, I was reassessing different areas of my life. I was doing well in my career and making good m..." READ MORE

I Became Fully Present

"I'm 52 years old, and I’ve been on a spiritual path since I was 21. I’ve tried countless modalities, but all have revolved around personal growth o..." READ MORE

Less Need for External Validation

"I was nearing the end of a failing relationship. I could see it was going wrong, but my partner and I had no way of communicating about the problem..." READ MORE

I Like Things Complicated

"I’ve always been a hider.  When I was very little, I went through a lot of hard experiences, and I got some very negative, painful feedback.  It’s ..." READ MORE

I Found My True Voice In OM

"An ex-boyfriend brought me to OM, and he did it in hopes of salvaging our relationship.  It didn’t save us as a couple, but it changed me and my li..." READ MORE

Opening My Voice

"Outside the windows of the rented van, hills and meadows were flashing past. Inside, my college classmates were chatting and laughing, and I was si..." READ MORE

I Am More Adaptable with My Wife

"The yoga class was ending, as always, with the students coming out of the corpse pose, the final relaxation. That is, most of the students. “Start ..." READ MORE

Stepping Out Of The Box

"The moment of truth came while my husband and I were sitting in a hot tub with a group of friends at the end of a night of partying. I was relaxed ..." READ MORE

The Art of Paying Attention

"It was a usual weekday. I picked up my wife's kids from school, gave them a snack, and started making dinner. It felt good to be giving of myself, ..." READ MORE

Learning To Find My Yes

"During the training period of becoming a doctor, through years of school and residency, I was too busy to date anyone. Once my career was launched,..." READ MORE

Seeing That What I Wanted Was In Front of Me

"Before I discovered OM, I was living in a constant state of seeking something that would make me feel whole, connected, and in touch with myself an..." READ MORE

Hunting, Fishing… OMing?

"I’m a pretty conservative business owner, and I wouldn’t call myself verbose. My baseline for communication before OM was “I’m good.” I didn’t know..." READ MORE

Changing How I Experience the World

"Everything about OM transformed everything about me. From the warmth and openness of the community, to the physical and psychological experience of..." READ MORE

Acceptable Answers

"Whenever my grandmother came to visit, there was a list of things I was not allowed to do. According to Grandma, children did not help out in the k..." READ MORE

Power in Not Knowing the Answer

"I was born in India, and I was introduced to meditative practices early in my life. For my family in particular, and my culture in general, learnin..." READ MORE

Expanding From Rules to Desire

"Community is one of the most important things in my life, and if I think about what I’ve come to love most about Orgasmic Meditation, it’s that I c..." READ MORE

Our Bodies are Always in Conversation

"When I look at where I was when I was younger, and where I am now, I’m stunned by the transformation that OM has brought to my life.I spent so many..." READ MORE

Learning to Listen to Women

"I’d been seeing this woman, Sophia.  We’d been dating three months when she went away on a business trip, and the day before she got back, I receiv..." READ MORE

The Many Varieties of Letting Go

"“Slow down,” my mother said. “You're taking the curves too fast.”She was right. I was driving just a little too fast. She wasn't even being mean. B..." READ MORE

Opening to Feeling

"I was raised in a really open and beautiful family. In high school I started reading books on comparative religions and studied the common thread a..." READ MORE

From Suave to Skillful

"Kids at school bullied me and made fun of me for how different I looked because of my Asian features. That's how I learned to exercise my intuition..." READ MORE

I Found a Sense of Knowing

"I am a man of few words. It drives some women nuts. Nevertheless, over the years, I've been in a series of relationships, including a ten-year marr..." READ MORE