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I Learned to be Present in the Moment

"None of my relationships ever seemed to work out. After a string of “monogamous” relationships that would never actually end up being monogamous, I..." READ MORE

Salvaging My Relationship With Myself

"From day one my marriage was a struggle. Especially sexually, and those difficulties bled over into everything else. I sort of kept assuming it wou..." READ MORE

Removing the Shame From Hunger

"After I split from my husband of nine years, I went into hibernation. My niece would visit and say, “Auntie Jocelyn, why are you so sleepy?” I knew..." READ MORE

OM Gave Me a Place to Grieve

"In my early twenties, I married a man who checked all the boxes that my mother and grandmother thought were necessary. That is, all of the boxes ex..." READ MORE

I See More Beauty in Life

"My father died when I was eight. He was a heavy drinker and violent toward my mother, and he left us with a lot of debt. My mom worked morning, noo..." READ MORE

Touching My Soul through My Body

"I found OM via a book reading in San Francisco, and I was intrigued. I was recently divorced and wanted to get back in touch with my sexuality agai..." READ MORE

I’m Not Afraid to be Who I Am

"I came to OM in the aftermath of a bitter divorce.  My ex and I had children, and we were battling over everything.  I was so wrapped up in the fig..." READ MORE

A Hunger I’d Never Fed Before

"In my family we never spoke about sex. At the age of 13, I was molested by a stranger, and I had no way of telling my parents what had happened. Al..." READ MORE

Bringing Feminine Power Into My Business

"After my divorce I began searching for a new level of freedom in my personal and sexual life. I was in my late 40s and had only been with one man, ..." READ MORE

I Became Someone My Daughter is Proud Of

"Since discovering Orgasmic Meditation at 42, I’ve experienced many openings—the most surprising being a shift toward genuine connection and deeper ..." READ MORE

I Developed Concentration and Focus

"I work as a night shift concierge in an apartment building on the Upper East Side in New York City. I run a small business on the side as a magicia..." READ MORE

Rethinking Societal Messages & Expectations

"I have always been a seeker. Before I knew about Orgasmic Meditation, I was searching for something, but I couldn’t pinpoint what it was. I’d had s..." READ MORE

My Healing Process Required Me to OM Regularly

"In my marriage, sex was a traumatic, brutal exchange – for me, emotionally equivalent to violation. In order to relearn healthy intimacy and enjoy ..." READ MORE

This Practice Lifted The Gray Film of Depression Off Me

"The first thing I got from Orgasmic Meditation was the lifting of a lifelong depression. Long ago, a therapist told me, “Your normal is low-level d..." READ MORE

From Focusing on Problems to Enjoying Beauty

"I'm a very open-minded person who likes to try different things. Skydiving, bungee jumping—I’ll do it. I’m not afraid. I’ve always been very intens..." READ MORE

I Grew More Confident in My Nursing Job

"The presentation is scheduled for noon, it's 9:45, and I'm already a nervous wreck. I'm looking after patients, doing my rounds, and I'm only half ..." READ MORE

The Useful Lessons of Darkness

"In the early 2000’s, I was working in the Middle East and living the high life. It was all Porsches and polo matches, glamorous apartments and flyi..." READ MORE

The Life-Affirming Force of Desire

"Before Orgasmic Meditation, I had a habit of over-achieving, over-working, and, in a painful way, over-serving everyone around me—especially my the..." READ MORE

My Heart Has Never Been Happier

"I remember the last house I bought in Southern California very clearly. I chose it meticulously. It had a pool, a waterfall, and a casita where I c..." READ MORE

The Courage to have Compassion

"I divorced in 2012 after a 20-plus year relationship with a more conservative person. Afterward, I reverted back to my curious, more adventurous se..." READ MORE

I Am More Soft, Open, & Vulnerable

"People see me as a conventional, polite, good-looking Danish woman. When I was younger, people would say things like, “Oh you’re such a nice, well-..." READ MORE

My Body Came Back to Life

"Before I found OM, I always felt a hunger. I grew up in China, in a culture where children were supposed to follow instructions—but not express the..." READ MORE

An Influx of Work Began to Mysteriously Flow In

"During my ten-year marriage, my husband and I only had sex once or twice a year. He didn’t seem interested in sex, and when I asked him about it, h..." READ MORE

A Deep Healing Through OM

"“Sex will be painful for your whole life. Just make sure to lube up,” my doctor bluntly informed me after a visit in hopes of reigniting the spark ..." READ MORE

Finding Life in the Midst of Leukemia

"I grew up in a fairly unusual household. Because of that I think I spent most of my adult life trying to create some sort of normalcy. I became a s..." READ MORE

Playing An Instrument With Great Precision & Sensitivity

"I love to dance. For years, dancing was the only way I could express my sexuality and passion freely. Yet at one time, even my dancing was superfic..." READ MORE

Discerning When to Ask For A Change

"“Why am I numb?” I typed queries into Google, desperate for help. “How can I feel something?” But Google didn't have an answer that made any sense...." READ MORE

Alleviating the Nagging Dissatisfaction

"I was 35 when I sold my first company. After years of hard work, there was this long-awaited payoff.  If I wanted to, I could retire, and live a li..." READ MORE

OM is Just As Much For Men As For Women

"Before OM I had been through three divorces, and I was convinced I was broken, that I would never make my partner happy – which is what I thought w..." READ MORE

The Distinction Between Obligation and Desire

"When I discovered that my husband was having an affair, he was unapologetic. He spent the next 18 months going back and forth between me and his lo..." READ MORE

Overcoming Sexual Shame from Religion

"I grew up a Fundamentalist Christian in the American South, where sex was reserved for one reason and one reason only: to pop out more Fundamentali..." READ MORE

OM has Expanded my Ability to See, Feel, to be Attentive

"Man, did I have a plan for my life. I started dating the woman I was going to marry on the last day of high school. We went to a movie, saw Don Jua..." READ MORE

Being Present in My Connections

"When I came to Orgasmic Meditation, I had been practicing Tantra for two decades, so I was no stranger to sacred sexuality practices. I’m always lo..." READ MORE

What My Body Tells Me

"Dread fills me as I'm walking down the street, and I see my mother's car parked up ahead at a gas station. She gets out of her car and stumbles tow..." READ MORE

Taking The Time to Ask Myself What I Want

"My husband, Richard, had moved out of the house, and I was still doing his laundry. I had just carried a box of clean clothes down the street to hi..." READ MORE

Spontaneity and Love Instead of a Predictable Life

"When I discovered OM, I was married for nearly 10 years, had a good position as a web developer, and—aside from some stress from my job—I was comfo..." READ MORE

Reclaiming My Voice

"Despite the fact I already had 3 kids, I’d just begun to explore my sexuality for the first time when I learned about Orgasmic Meditation. I was re..." READ MORE

Being Okay with Whatever Happens

"For a long time, I lived a life of fun and entertainment and excitement, drinking and having a good time. I totally let myself go physically and le..." READ MORE

Enlivening My Life After Military, Religion and Divorce

"I was in a stagnant marriage with a woman I could no longer relate to. Orgasmic Meditation opened me up to a whole new world of perspectives, sensa..." READ MORE

Rediscovering Trust and Connection

"My life was in a nosedive. I was working two jobs, struggling with feelings of chaos and lack of control, and losing my grip on my own life and san..." READ MORE

Saying Yes to What Brings Me Joy

"You know the old saying, “The shoemaker’s children go barefoot?” It’s the idea that people who are experts at something often fail to practice thei..." READ MORE

OM Gave Me a Connection With My Mom’s Spirit

"My mother brought me to OM. She died in October 2015, and I found OM a year later.  It was her death, though, and her memory, that led me on the pa..." READ MORE

What's Left Is Love

"When I was growing up, it was hard to build friendships with other kids because my father was in the Army, and we were always moving around the cou..." READ MORE

It’s not about Romeo and Juliet

"I first heard about Orgasmic Meditation while I was going through my divorce. I remember being so excited by this totally new practice, but I didn’..." READ MORE

Releasing the Trauma

"I experienced sexual abuse as a child and had sexual trauma in later life. As a little girl, my mom not only didn't protect me, instead she often s..." READ MORE

Releasing Old Baggage And Embracing Myself

"To tell you how OM changed things for me, as a physical therapist living in San Francisco, I would have to go way back—to my birth, 60 years ago, i..." READ MORE

Surrendering To Have It All

"The last 12 years of my marriage were very strained because of my business and other obligations. I became more and more hidden, more and more conf..." READ MORE

The Freedom of Confidence

"I was going through hard times. My marriage and business fell apart. I had had a public relations company for nine years – and I’d been married for..." READ MORE

A Missing Ingredient that Makes it Sing

"“Sit down,” my husband said. I knew something bad was coming.“I’ve found my soulmate,” he said. For a tenth of a second, I thought this was an awkw..." READ MORE

OM Gave Me an Energy that I’ll Never Forget

"The first word that comes to mind to describe my life before OM is “under-nourished.”  I wasn’t miserable, or in some sort of great despair, but I ..." READ MORE

The Healing of Hardship

"I can have my own experienceBoth my sister and I have a history of sexual abuse. Before OM I spent decades dissociated from sex and my body. My fir..." READ MORE

People Relax Around Me Because I’ve Learned To Accept My Own Feelings

"My first experience with OM was with my ex-wife.  We hadn’t contacted anyone for coaching -  we just had a book with a rather vague two-page descri..." READ MORE

Back To My Roots

"I grew up hating being an Asian woman. I carried a lot of shame and had a very disconnected relationship with my culture and my family—especially m..." READ MORE

The OM Adventure

"My whole life, I've craved adventure and intensity. I joined the Navy because it was the most dangerous job I could find. Like Tom Cruise in Top Gu..." READ MORE

A Blossoming of the Kind of Intimacy I Always Wanted

"I grew up in a family where women and girls weren't really asked how they felt about anything. What I wanted was not necessarily very important, an..." READ MORE

A Nutrient That is Regenerative and Everlasting

"I grew up in Frankfurt, Germany, and when I was nine years old, my mother discovered that my dad was having an affair, and my parents divorced. My ..." READ MORE

From Empty to Filled

"When Betty and I started dating, we discovered we had mismatched libidos. During the early years of our relationship, we even joked about it. But e..." READ MORE

Desire And The Single Mother

"I missed the exploratory teenage and early 20s years. Being a mom and a wife—I’ve been a mom since I was 16—there’s no chance to explore your sexua..." READ MORE

More About Connection than Sex

"As weird as it sounds, Orgasmic Meditation was probably the most work I've done sexually speaking. But it was also one of the least sexual things I..." READ MORE

One Word Healed Me

"I was the archetypal 45-year-old virgin before I came to OM. I wasn’t a virgin in the literal sense, but I felt like one in every classic respect. ..." READ MORE

From Needing Approval to Offering Confidence

"Despite the fact that I’ve always experienced a lack of confidence in meeting the opposite sex, for some reason I’ve always attracted beautiful wom..." READ MORE

The Whole Person

"In early adulthood, I adopted a conventional lifestyle—married with kids, working in the tech field. When I look back on the crossed-wires and prob..." READ MORE

My Finger Stroked by Itself

"The jukebox was big and shiny, and I was excited to see it sitting there in the school hall. A parent had rented it for a dance to celebrate our ei..." READ MORE

Opening Up My Preferences

"When I was growing up, following the teachings of Reverend Moon and the Unification Church, I was striving to be obedient and pure. My religion pro..." READ MORE

Becoming What You Already Are

"A friend of mine sent me information about OM and at the time, I had a client who was coming to see me about his girlfriend’s OCD around hygiene. S..." READ MORE

Following My Heart

"I grew up in the old country, in Poland, in a very secure environment with very strong family values. There was a certain way that was already set ..." READ MORE

Blowing the Coal to Flame

"I don’t know what people think of when they think about a typical person who OMs, but I bet it isn’t me.   I’m a divorced man, and I live in Wichit..." READ MORE

Taking the Body's Lead

"I loved teaching, but I hated the public school system. When kids have no choice about learning and are motivated by fear of punishment, the result..." READ MORE

Truth Brings Connection

"The first man I ever had sex with gave me a sexually transmitted disease. I felt ashamed. I knew I should have set up clearer boundaries with this ..." READ MORE

The Joy Wasn't Lost After All

"I was quite a joyful little girl.  I loved my life.  And at some point, something happened that changed that.  It’s not as if I became severely dep..." READ MORE

OM gave me the courage to live

"Keep your expectations low, and you won’t be disappointed.  I believed that for as long as I can remember.  It’s not a message I got explicitly fro..." READ MORE

OM Taught Me To Be Me

"When I discovered Orgasmic Meditation, I was working as a dental hygienist. To be honest, I didn't care for the work, but it sustained my life so t..." READ MORE

Finding Nourishment through OM

"I was living near Seattle, married, with four step kids when the recession hit. We moved to Texas because there were no jobs in our area, and event..." READ MORE

Immediate & Dramatic Shift

"Before I found the OM practice, my existence occurred in a state of perpetual denial when it came to feeling my own feelings. You could say I was a..." READ MORE

All Relationships Are A Practice

"When my husband left me with three little children, I was heartbroken. Everything was overwhelmingly difficult to deal with. I let the post pile up..." READ MORE

Finding What I Had Been Missing

"Before I tried Orgasmic Meditation for the first time, my marriage was ending and I was so caught up in my job, my family and my personal issues th..." READ MORE

Unconditional Love Others Can Feel

"I always thought I loved my children. I was a good mother, and I worried about them and wanted the best for them.  It was only after I came to OM t..." READ MORE

Life Below The Surface

"I had been living what seemed like the American Dream.  My wife and I had been together for 16 years, since we were in college.  We had a house in ..." READ MORE

I Gained So Much Confidence Through OM

"I took society’s path in life, fulfilling everyone else's desires about what life should look like, getting married, having a reasonably paid, reas..." READ MORE

Slowing Down to Feel

"Putting my children to bed used to make me feel uncomfortable. I'd tuck them in, give a quick kiss on the forehead, say good-night, failing to bask..." READ MORE

Sustained Intimate Connections

"I grew up in India, and I immigrated to the United States 25 years ago.  I’m 51 now, and until very recently, my entire focus has been on survival...." READ MORE

OM is the foundation of everything I have now

"I came to OM because my relationships weren’t working, and I was exhausted. I’d been beaten up pretty good by life and by my own choices. I got mar..." READ MORE

Stepping Out Of The Box

"The moment of truth came while my husband and I were sitting in a hot tub with a group of friends at the end of a night of partying. I was relaxed ..." READ MORE

The Art of Paying Attention

"It was a usual weekday. I picked up my wife's kids from school, gave them a snack, and started making dinner. It felt good to be giving of myself, ..." READ MORE

I love the Size Shape of My Body

"Once upon a time, the word orgasm meant climax to me. That was before I was introduced to Orgasmic Meditation and understood that orgasm is a conti..." READ MORE

From Suave to Skillful

"Kids at school bullied me and made fun of me for how different I looked because of my Asian features. That's how I learned to exercise my intuition..." READ MORE

OM Breaks Through the Façade

"I was in the military, which kind of describes who and what I was and what I was doing much of my life. I was very stringent. I would give orders a..." READ MORE

Patience, Presence, and a Greater Appreciation of Self

"I have been involved in the BDSM lifestyle for about eight years now. I got into it when I first separated from my husband. I learned about rope ar..." READ MORE

Finding Deep Spiritual Meaning in Physical Practices

"OM was an amazing discovery for me, and I am convinced that everyone should know about it and try to experience it for themselves. OM helped me fin..." READ MORE

Putting My Attention On What I Want

"Before I discovered Orgasmic Meditation, I was deeply unhappy, a man who had no idea what would bring him contentment in any area of his life. I di..." READ MORE

It Changed how I was Onstage

"Before I discovered OM, I was getting divorced and was leaving my home. I was lonely, trying to find out who my real friends were going to be in th..." READ MORE

Asking For What You Want Has Everybody Win

"In 2012, Hurricane Sandy destroyed a third of my house. My family and I had to evacuate. A few weeks before the hurricane, I could feel a lot of th..." READ MORE

Even Only One OM Changed Me

"I grew up in the East Coast, in a loving but very religious Catholic family.  I came to California to go to college and fell in love with the west ..." READ MORE

Finding Where the Edges Are

"I know a lot of people who have said that when they first started their OM practice, they were broken in one way or another. I don’t know if it’s t..." READ MORE