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Listening to What My Heart Desires

"I used to pride myself on the fact that I was very logical and quick-minded. I was an ambitious, Russian-born woman living in the UK, and I thought..." READ MORE

I Gained Sensitivity and Connection to My Instincts

"Between the ages of 16 to 27, I tried so hard to find a girlfriend. I earned a Master’s degree in psychology just to study relationships. I paid or..." READ MORE

Not Needing to Be Right

"I was a hyper-sensitive child. I could barely go into a room without feeling like I had to leave. I was anxious about being around other people, bu..." READ MORE

I Got Really Comfortable Being Myself

"I met a woman in a restaurant and asked her how she was spending her evening later. She told me that she was doing a practice called Orgasmic Medit..." READ MORE

I Realized I Used to Lie A Lot

"The other day, I was putting up fliers at this new job I have. It’s a difficult job, and it’s required me to move away from a lot of the people and..." READ MORE

The Moment By Moment Felt-Sense

"I got into OM when my girlfriend gave me a copy of “Slow Sex” by Nicole Daedone. I learned the practice at first because I wanted to be a good boyf..." READ MORE

OM Led Me Back to God

"I was raised in a normal middle class family and had a pretty happy childhood. The only thing that was different is I had a biracial upbringing. My..." READ MORE

Trusting Men Again

"You could say that Orgasmic Meditation took the mystery out of men for me. I had been educated at an all-girls school, and throughout my career fou..." READ MORE

I Don’t Have to Perform Anymore

"I grew up in a household that was abusive by the textbook definition.  My parents were both alcoholics and addicts. My father was gone much of the ..." READ MORE

Letting Go of People Pleasing

"I was so in my head before Orgasmic Meditation. You could have called me anti-social, but I wouldn’t have. I just didn’t know how to express myself..." READ MORE

Women are a Tiny Bit Less of a Mystery

"If I think about why I went looking for something like OM, it all had to do with this tremendous desire to connect with women. Growing up, I had a ..." READ MORE

This Practice Lifted The Gray Film of Depression Off Me

"The first thing I got from Orgasmic Meditation was the lifting of a lifelong depression. Long ago, a therapist told me, “Your normal is low-level d..." READ MORE

Now I Thrive in the Mess That is Love & Life

"I was single and searching for community in LA when someone told me about Orgasmic Meditation. I wanted to connect with women, so I went to an intr..." READ MORE

Keeping My Heart Open

"For three years after my husband died, I cried every day. I had been with him for 50 years, married for 45 of them. From the time I was 18, I was w..." READ MORE

My Heart Has Never Been Happier

"I remember the last house I bought in Southern California very clearly. I chose it meticulously. It had a pool, a waterfall, and a casita where I c..." READ MORE

The Courage to have Compassion

"I divorced in 2012 after a 20-plus year relationship with a more conservative person. Afterward, I reverted back to my curious, more adventurous se..." READ MORE

Knowledge That I Have Something to Offer

"As a first generation Chinese American, I grew up being sensitive with little knowledge of what to do with that sensitivity. My parents' first conc..." READ MORE

Not-Enoughness Became Confidence & Value

"A couple of years ago, I was at the Bulletproof conference here in Los Angeles when a guy approached me and some friends to invite us to visit the ..." READ MORE

OM Prepares You for Anything

"When I was young, I was mostly homeschooled. So, socially, I was a bit inept. From age seven to about age nine, my parents and I traveled across th..." READ MORE

My Body is a Truth Meter

"I’ve always been tremendously independent and self-sufficient. I had a very good home life growing up in Los Angeles, meaning that I could have any..." READ MORE

Creating Experiences Instead of Following A Man

"The floor vibrated to the pounding of the music, sending its waves up through my body to blend with the deafening beat coming through the air. In t..." READ MORE

Outside the Comfort Zone Together

"I was married at the time I first heard about OM and my wife and I both thought it sounded interesting. We learned more about it and felt the timin..." READ MORE

You Can’t People-Please Your Way to Your Own Life

"My parents raised me to be a “nice girl.” That meant different things throughout my childhood, starting with keeping myself clean.  Later, it evolv..." READ MORE

Discipline & Sensitivity

"Fortunately, my perspective is changing with time, but early on I thought my parents were just evil incarnate. They were so shallow and never talke..." READ MORE

Valuing Connection Over Getting It Right

"Before Orgasmic Meditation, my relationships with women seemed to have happened out of luck or out of left field. After many wrong moves, I’d ask s..." READ MORE

Creative Freedom

"I was born and raised in a very beautiful part of Germany. My parents were self-made and successful, and my conditioning was very much oriented tow..." READ MORE

More Connection With My New Body

"As a 36-year-old trans man living in France, a freelance barista and graphic designer, I believe that OM has helped me to feel what the truth is fo..." READ MORE

Overcoming Sexual Shame from Religion

"I grew up a Fundamentalist Christian in the American South, where sex was reserved for one reason and one reason only: to pop out more Fundamentali..." READ MORE

From Digital Isolation to Taking Risks in Life

"I like to say that my life started at age 30. You’ll see why.I come from a unique background. My mother is from the highlands of Guatemala, and my ..." READ MORE

Waking Up and Looking Around

"I never used to be able to find relationships that could fulfill my needs. They were all either drama-filled and toxic or boring. A lot of that ste..." READ MORE

Removing the Shame Garbage

"I used to be completely wild and accepting of my sexuality. I could have had sex even if there were priests in the room next door having lunch. But..." READ MORE

My Attention Opens Up Unlimited Experiences

"I started OMing in 2012 after moving to a new city for work. I lived a very intellectual life, and although I had the sense that there was more to ..." READ MORE

Finding Enjoyment in the Moment

"When I found Orgasmic Meditation, I was in my late 30s and had had a series of relationships that hadn’t worked out. I’d known from the beginning t..." READ MORE

Our Greatest Desire is Connection

"I found out about Orgasmic Meditation through a long-time friend of mine who had just recently discovered it himself. He told me it was a 15-minute..." READ MORE

OM Filled Me Up When I Was Empty

"I’ve always been kind of edgy, but it seemed like the older I got, the more reserved and boring I became. I was looking for the next thing, but I c..." READ MORE

From Nice Guy to Honest Man

"The only place I could be honest about my desires was in porn. I’d go home and get drunk and open up my computer and go to town. I spent hours on e..." READ MORE

Trusting What I Feel

"The team-building game was supposed to be fun, but I found it irritating. Instead of making me feel closer to my co-workers, most of what they said..." READ MORE

Taking The Time to Ask Myself What I Want

"My husband, Richard, had moved out of the house, and I was still doing his laundry. I had just carried a box of clean clothes down the street to hi..." READ MORE

Connection Without Commerce

"I grew up in Chennai, India for the first 20 years of my life. My mother, with her withering looks, was one of the dominant forces in my life. Acco..." READ MORE

The Safety of Knowing That Women Have Desire

"I meet a woman at a bar. She introduces me to an OM practitioner and eventual teacher of OM. Six years pass. The teacher of OM posts on social medi..." READ MORE

The Caregiver Finds His Own Healing

"Five years before I found OM, my wife had developed an increasingly degrading brain condition. My life became increasingly unmanageable as I tried ..." READ MORE

The Power of Slowing Down

"I used to come on strong when relating to others—especially women—with fast-paced conversation and a need to perform. Through the path of Orgasmic ..." READ MORE

Spontaneity and Love Instead of a Predictable Life

"When I discovered OM, I was married for nearly 10 years, had a good position as a web developer, and—aside from some stress from my job—I was comfo..." READ MORE

Valuing my sensitivity

"My whole life, since I was a child, I've had these sensations in my body that tell me what's going on with the people around me. I was a highly sen..." READ MORE

Opening to intimacy

"Before Orgasmic Meditation, intimacy and connection were hidden from me. I wasn’t as authentic, available, or open as I am today. Orgasmic Meditati..." READ MORE

Reclaiming My Voice

"Despite the fact I already had 3 kids, I’d just begun to explore my sexuality for the first time when I learned about Orgasmic Meditation. I was re..." READ MORE

Truly Relating with Women, Without the Pedestal

"I never felt like I belonged anywhere. I was a very sensitive kid, and I grew up in a very rough neighborhood in New York City in the 1970s and ear..." READ MORE

Finding My Strength in Connection with Men and Women

"I’d always had women friends, and always been bewildered by women at the same time.  When I was in college, I had tons of female friends, but those..." READ MORE

I Met My Husband Through OM

"When I began practicing Orgasmic Meditation, I had been searching for a life partner for a long time. I was working with a love coach, and during o..." READ MORE

It’s Not Sex

"I heard about Orgasmic Meditation from an ex-girlfriend who had done a lot of different types of meditation practices over the years. One of my mai..." READ MORE

Dropping My Fears and Realizing My Potential with a Woman

"I came to OM when I was stuck in an emotional rut. I had done talk therapy, journaling, retreats, and lots of introspection.  I knew why I was stuc..." READ MORE

A Woman Lit Up

"We never said “I love you” in my family. We never really expressed ourselves and weren't very open with our real feelings. Intimacy just wasn’t ava..." READ MORE

A Strong Feminine Aspect

"My whole life has always been this sort of start-stop thing. Whenever a desire was actually met, I would get really anxious and self-sabotage. I wa..." READ MORE

Rediscovering Trust and Connection

"My life was in a nosedive. I was working two jobs, struggling with feelings of chaos and lack of control, and losing my grip on my own life and san..." READ MORE

Saying Yes to What Brings Me Joy

"You know the old saying, “The shoemaker’s children go barefoot?” It’s the idea that people who are experts at something often fail to practice thei..." READ MORE

OM is the Backbone & the Secret of Life

"Pursuing my OM practice was one of the best decisions of my life. It has improved my life and my relationships, and radically altered my perception..." READ MORE

The Strength of Connection

"Western culture is, in some regards, tragic. We all live in our own house. We kind of know a neighbor or two. We meet when we walk the dog. We know..." READ MORE

OM Gave Me the Tools to Be in a Relationship

"I was born and raised in Guatemala. I’m a product of that culture, and I miss it – but I’m a proud New Yorker now.  I’ve been here since I was 19 y..." READ MORE

Opening to Communication

"My biggest challenge dating used to be lack of communication skills. Plus, I was working quite a lot in the music and entertainment field and alway..." READ MORE

I Want Everyone to Have this Freedom

"Before I grew my shell, I had a charmed childhood. I was always empathetic and sensitive, and when I was little, that was a good way to be in the w..." READ MORE

I Discovered Extraordinary Possibilities

"I came to OM at the tail end of a difficult marriage. I’d been married to my husband for more than 10 years, and he had changed me – not for the be..." READ MORE

More Outgoing Now

"College went by in a blur. I liked going to class, but I never did any homework. Even though I didn't like people much, I tried joining a sorority,..." READ MORE

OM as Self-Care

"When I was seventeen, I discovered a desire for women. At university, I went crazy, meeting lots of women and having a string of monogamous relatio..." READ MORE

Freedom and Permission

"When I moved to San Francisco, in my twenties, I felt free to do whatever I wanted. I was raised in a conventional, middle-class, Catholic family, ..." READ MORE

Endless Learning

"I've always been good at being friends with women. My feminine side was cultivated by my sisters and a strong mother, so I know how to be sympathet..." READ MORE

The Gift of Being Uncomfortable

"I crave intimacy, being awake in this life, and connecting with the generosity of the human spirit. The question for me has always been about endin..." READ MORE

OM Has Given New Meaning to My Relationships

"Opening Up to KnowledgeIn my career, I was used to being in a position of authority. I was a military pilot, and then I flew huge airplanes around ..." READ MORE

What to Do with Shame

"I used to set a hard limit on how far I'd let a relationship go. At a certain point, I would always hit the eject button. I knew that eventually, i..." READ MORE

The Nourished Mother

"My bravado said I could have it all. I could be a single mom, I could have a good-paying job, and I could do it without needing anything for myself..." READ MORE

Finding Flow in OM and Life

"I'm a basic kind of guy. Even though I was born with PTSD (based on some things that happened to my mom while she was pregnant), I'm not plagued wi..." READ MORE

OM as Metaphor

"I didn't know who I was or what I wanted in life. It was easy for me to go with the flow, which worked fine with friends because I was a chill guy ..." READ MORE

Being Real

"My parents were kissing. My father dramatically bent my mother over backwards, and she gushed, “Oh, kiss me!” Even though I was only ten years old,..." READ MORE

OM Helped Me Feel Worthy of the Healing Process

"I was panicked, angry, and despondent. I’d just gone through another breakup with another boyfriend.  There were many issues, but one was my body. ..." READ MORE

Finding the Freedom to Ask

"I’ve been doing OM for 10 years now.   I know that a lot of people come to OM because they’re going through a difficult time and are hungry for som..." READ MORE

OM Gave Me an Energy that I’ll Never Forget

"The first word that comes to mind to describe my life before OM is “under-nourished.”  I wasn’t miserable, or in some sort of great despair, but I ..." READ MORE

Wow, I Look Great!

"I have never looked the way I thought I should; I’ve tried every diet plan, every workout routine, to try to change that. Not liking my body has ne..." READ MORE

The Battery that Powers a Lighthouse

"I had miscarried twice before, but the third one broke me.  I was 20 weeks pregnant with a son, and I lost him. I remember that awful night in the ..." READ MORE

A Search for Intimacy

"I was already in my late 30s when I came to OM. I met some people who were engaged in self-improvement and self-inquiry—people who were wanting to ..." READ MORE

Finding the Truth

"I was 30 when I decided that dating was useless. I didn’t mean that I gave up on relationships.  Rather, it became obvious to me that the whole sys..." READ MORE

I Grew A Greater Empathy Towards Women

"My partner found Orgasmic Meditation and introduced me to it by sending me an online link. She jumped in and did it before I did and thoroughly enj..." READ MORE

Learning to Let the Love In

"I remember about a year before I started OMing, a friend was telling me about this group that she was going to that was all about authentic relatin..." READ MORE

OM Fundamentally Changed the Way I Think

"Six years ago, I was living in New York City.  I was divorced with three kids and had just extricated myself from a long-term relationship that was..." READ MORE

From Empty to Filled

"When Betty and I started dating, we discovered we had mismatched libidos. During the early years of our relationship, we even joked about it. But e..." READ MORE

Permission To Be Myself

"“I can't feel you.” It seemed like a strange thing for a girl to say. I didn't understand what she meant, but I did know she was explaining why we ..." READ MORE

Desire And The Single Mother

"I missed the exploratory teenage and early 20s years. Being a mom and a wife—I’ve been a mom since I was 16—there’s no chance to explore your sexua..." READ MORE

I Hear Your Body Speaking

"The clanking of silverware felt like hammers pounding on my head, adding to the ringing in my ears. I stared down at the menu through my hangover f..." READ MORE

OM Changed Me as A Human Being and A Doctor

"When I was very young, I wanted to save the world. I was also interested in how the body works, so I decided to become a doctor. My first year of m..." READ MORE

The Search for Connection

"When my relationship of four and a half years ended, I acted as though everything was normal. But when I was alone, I felt lost and cried a lot. I ..." READ MORE

The Power of Choice

"My early childhood life was very tumultuous, and I experienced a lot of childhood trauma. Sexual trauma was only part of it. There was also a lot o..." READ MORE

I Let Go of Being A Child

"My parents had me very late in life. I had everything I needed and experienced a very happy and fulfilling childhood. But my parents had a very cle..." READ MORE

Appreciation for Every Moment

"As a young person growing up, I had the idea that in order to be liked I had to somehow prove myself. I also thought it was ideal to be sexual earl..." READ MORE

From Needing Approval to Offering Confidence

"Despite the fact that I’ve always experienced a lack of confidence in meeting the opposite sex, for some reason I’ve always attracted beautiful wom..." READ MORE

The Whole Person

"In early adulthood, I adopted a conventional lifestyle—married with kids, working in the tech field. When I look back on the crossed-wires and prob..." READ MORE

My Finger Stroked by Itself

"The jukebox was big and shiny, and I was excited to see it sitting there in the school hall. A parent had rented it for a dance to celebrate our ei..." READ MORE

Finding My Own Path

"Before coming to OM, my life was the same every day, like the movie Groundhog Day, endlessly repeating.It wasn’t a bad life. I had a good family li..." READ MORE

Connection is a muscle I strengthen through OM

"I was trapped.  I realize now I was trapping myself.  Before I found OM, I had a go-to pattern, and it was withdrawal.  My ex would boast to others..." READ MORE

Staying Open Through It All

"OM was not my first stop.  What I mean by that is that I’d spent years studying self-improvement and self-awareness.  There are so many different m..." READ MORE

Oh, This is So Beautiful

"For most of my life, I never spoke about my emotions with anyone, even my closest friends. I believed it was weak to be vulnerable about my feeling..." READ MORE

I Am A Feminine Person

"From the time I was little, I wanted to be close to women. I want to begin my story with that, because that’s tied into everything before I came to..." READ MORE

Following My Heart

"I grew up in the old country, in Poland, in a very secure environment with very strong family values. There was a certain way that was already set ..." READ MORE

Blowing the Coal to Flame

"I don’t know what people think of when they think about a typical person who OMs, but I bet it isn’t me.   I’m a divorced man, and I live in Wichit..." READ MORE

What I Craved

"I would say a big defining piece of my life before was that I was in two very long relationships with men I loved.  Both of them were people I foun..." READ MORE

How to Be a Man

"When I was young and in school, I adapted to the need to hide my feelings by becoming the class clown, able to dissipate any emotional intensity by..." READ MORE

A Window Opened to Where I Matter

"I grew up in a small town, the elder of two children.  My parents had been childhood sweethearts and had married just out of high school.  We were ..." READ MORE

Taking Down Walls

"My mother taught me to live in two worlds. There was the white world and the Native world, and as Ojibwe Indians living apart from the reservation,..." READ MORE

Visceral Connection

"I was in an elevator in downtown San Francisco with my fiancée and her friends when I realized my life needed to change.  I made a joke, something ..." READ MORE

Beyond Aversion

"When I discovered OM in my forties, I was still figuring things out about my sexuality, my marriage, my attractions, and my aversions. I was an act..." READ MORE

The Carpenter's Touch

"I’ve been OMing for seven years now.  It has changed my life.I’ll admit it, I came to OM because I thought it was a sexual practice.  I came with m..." READ MORE

OM Removed Fear And Opened The Door To Intimacy

"My philosophy of life is all about growing, and I've been on a journey of wanting to dig deep. I’ve done Vipassana retreats and meditation and Five..." READ MORE

There’s No Going Back

"I grew up in the south of England in Dorset. Like most people, I didn't have a strong education regarding sexuality or how to manage myself in soci..." READ MORE

Finding Empathy

"Before I came to OM, I believed that I was a good partner, and a good boyfriend.  I was kind, and I was honest in my relationships. I also knew I w..." READ MORE

All Relationships Are A Practice

"When my husband left me with three little children, I was heartbroken. Everything was overwhelmingly difficult to deal with. I let the post pile up..." READ MORE

Deactivating Jealousy

"Many of us have an Achilles’ heel that will show us where we need to shine a light for healing and personal growth. For me, that vulnerable spot is..." READ MORE

The Acceptance Spread to the Rest of My Life

"Back in 2014 I had a lot of emotional releasing to do. I’d been dating a narcissist and was mourning the breakup of that codependent relationship. ..." READ MORE

Unconditional Love Others Can Feel

"I always thought I loved my children. I was a good mother, and I worried about them and wanted the best for them.  It was only after I came to OM t..." READ MORE

Setting My Mind Free

"Growing up, my life was rather like that of Cinderella, with the wicked stepmother putting me down all the time. She would beat me and unload all h..." READ MORE

A Bigness To Where I Am Now

"When I came to OM, I looked like I had it all. I was on a very popular TV show at the time.  My career as an actress had taken off.  I had great fr..." READ MORE

Life Below The Surface

"I had been living what seemed like the American Dream.  My wife and I had been together for 16 years, since we were in college.  We had a house in ..." READ MORE

Slowing Down to Feel

"Putting my children to bed used to make me feel uncomfortable. I'd tuck them in, give a quick kiss on the forehead, say good-night, failing to bask..." READ MORE

I Like Things Complicated

"I’ve always been a hider.  When I was very little, I went through a lot of hard experiences, and I got some very negative, painful feedback.  It’s ..." READ MORE

I Found My True Voice In OM

"An ex-boyfriend brought me to OM, and he did it in hopes of salvaging our relationship.  It didn’t save us as a couple, but it changed me and my li..." READ MORE

Finding Backbone

"Forty-five years ago, my mother and I came from the Soviet Union to the U.S., two immigrants trying to get grounded in a new place that was the opp..." READ MORE

Opening My Voice

"Outside the windows of the rented van, hills and meadows were flashing past. Inside, my college classmates were chatting and laughing, and I was si..." READ MORE

I melted anger and numbness into connection

"Staying ConnectedThere was a time when the only way for me to survive was to numb myself to the world, not just mentally but physically as well. I ..." READ MORE

OM is the foundation of everything I have now

"I came to OM because my relationships weren’t working, and I was exhausted. I’d been beaten up pretty good by life and by my own choices. I got mar..." READ MORE

The Masculine & Feminine Connection

"Growing up, I was pretty shy and reserved. I had a hard time connecting with people, and I was numb to my emotions. My strategy for dealing with li..." READ MORE

Stepping Out Of The Box

"The moment of truth came while my husband and I were sitting in a hot tub with a group of friends at the end of a night of partying. I was relaxed ..." READ MORE

Cracking Open the Cage

"I grew up in California, in a conservative Indian family. One of my parents is a chemist, and the other is an engineer, so there was a strong focus..." READ MORE

The Art of Paying Attention

"It was a usual weekday. I picked up my wife's kids from school, gave them a snack, and started making dinner. It felt good to be giving of myself, ..." READ MORE

I Am Better At My Job in Hospitals And I Am Able To Share With People Who I Am

"Before I started the practice of Orgasmic Meditation, I was shutting down emotionally, little by little, closing doors here, closing windows there,..." READ MORE

Hunting, Fishing… OMing?

"I’m a pretty conservative business owner, and I wouldn’t call myself verbose. My baseline for communication before OM was “I’m good.” I didn’t know..." READ MORE

Changing How I Experience the World

"Everything about OM transformed everything about me. From the warmth and openness of the community, to the physical and psychological experience of..." READ MORE

Acceptable Answers

"Whenever my grandmother came to visit, there was a list of things I was not allowed to do. According to Grandma, children did not help out in the k..." READ MORE

A Year of OM

"My experience with OM was many things. At times it was sublime and beautiful; at times it was imperfect and challenging. Overall it was edifying, a..." READ MORE


"Kids in my class were talking about a constellation. “It's the Big Dipper,” one of them said. “But the Big Dipper isn't out this time of year,” I s..." READ MORE

I Found a Sense of Knowing

"I am a man of few words. It drives some women nuts. Nevertheless, over the years, I've been in a series of relationships, including a ten-year marr..." READ MORE

Expand into Truth and Resilience

"As a performance artist and an entrepreneur, I was bucking the expectations of my conservative family. While living in Washington DC, I expressed m..." READ MORE

My Whole Life is Easier

"In college, when I was training to be sex therapist, a friend of my parents suggested I check out Orgasmic Meditation. I jumped right into an immer..." READ MORE

The Beauty in Everything

"Anxiety ruled my world, but I was not aware of it. I was scared, disconnected, and always pushing. At work, in my relationships, and with myself, I..." READ MORE