Tagged with #sexual-shame

My Heart Opened

"My mom was always open about sexuality. When I was a kid, she would talk about how sex was a really loving and magical experience. From books and m..." READ MORE

The Truth Just Has to Come Out

"I grew up in a chronically dishonest family. Maybe all families have their secrets, but mine were toxic, dark, and painful.  We lied about many thi..." READ MORE

No More Fake Good Girl

"In the old days, I was working a lot, and everything was “fine.” Fine is a funny word – as soon as you use it, people know that you don’t mean it, ..." READ MORE

Alleviating the Nagging Dissatisfaction

"I was 35 when I sold my first company. After years of hard work, there was this long-awaited payoff.  If I wanted to, I could retire, and live a li..." READ MORE

Creating Experiences Instead of Following A Man

"The floor vibrated to the pounding of the music, sending its waves up through my body to blend with the deafening beat coming through the air. In t..." READ MORE

Healing Shame-Based Vocabulary

"I grew up in the Filipino culture and the Catholic religion. There was a lot of strictness and social rules and a lot of shame and shame-based lang..." READ MORE

The Distinction Between Obligation and Desire

"When I discovered that my husband was having an affair, he was unapologetic. He spent the next 18 months going back and forth between me and his lo..." READ MORE

Overcoming Sexual Shame from Religion

"I grew up a Fundamentalist Christian in the American South, where sex was reserved for one reason and one reason only: to pop out more Fundamentali..." READ MORE

A Practice of Letting Go

"When I was a kid, my mom would joke that I was ‘a brain on a stick’ because she saw the way I related to my body. I used to look at activities like..." READ MORE

From Digital Isolation to Taking Risks in Life

"I like to say that my life started at age 30. You’ll see why.I come from a unique background. My mother is from the highlands of Guatemala, and my ..." READ MORE

Connecting to Grief and Healing Sexual Trauma through OM

"When someone’s Orgasmic Meditation post popped up on my social media, I was eight months into a devastating grief. My daughter had died. Nothing ma..." READ MORE

Removing the Shame Garbage

"I used to be completely wild and accepting of my sexuality. I could have had sex even if there were priests in the room next door having lunch. But..." READ MORE

Finding Enjoyment in the Moment

"When I found Orgasmic Meditation, I was in my late 30s and had had a series of relationships that hadn’t worked out. I’d known from the beginning t..." READ MORE

Our Greatest Desire is Connection

"I found out about Orgasmic Meditation through a long-time friend of mine who had just recently discovered it himself. He told me it was a 15-minute..." READ MORE

What My Body Tells Me

"Dread fills me as I'm walking down the street, and I see my mother's car parked up ahead at a gas station. She gets out of her car and stumbles tow..." READ MORE

Melting Rigidity into Presence and Play

"Before I became involved with erotic practices, I felt rigid and robotic. As a wellness practitioner, I touch people all day for massages, facials,..." READ MORE

From Nice Guy to Honest Man

"The only place I could be honest about my desires was in porn. I’d go home and get drunk and open up my computer and go to town. I spent hours on e..." READ MORE

A Moment of Becoming the Other

"At seventeen, I left my family and the sheltered world of our fundamentalist Christian community. Although still a child, I was soon working three ..." READ MORE

Connection Without Commerce

"I grew up in Chennai, India for the first 20 years of my life. My mother, with her withering looks, was one of the dominant forces in my life. Acco..." READ MORE

Reclaiming my body and believing in my perfection

"When I finally broke through my judgment and fear around the practice of Orgasmic Meditation it was only because I saw a dear friend transform her ..." READ MORE

Learning to Trust Men

" “What kind of hippy stuff is that?,” was my first reaction to learning about Orgasmic Meditation, about seven years ago, two years before I OMed f..." READ MORE

No Longer a Martyr

"Before OM, I never said “no” to a man. Sometimes I would try to defer, distract or divert. But if the person was persistent enough, I literally nev..." READ MORE

Truly Relating with Women, Without the Pedestal

"I never felt like I belonged anywhere. I was a very sensitive kid, and I grew up in a very rough neighborhood in New York City in the 1970s and ear..." READ MORE

Finding My Strength in Connection with Men and Women

"I’d always had women friends, and always been bewildered by women at the same time.  When I was in college, I had tons of female friends, but those..." READ MORE

Dropping My Fears and Realizing My Potential with a Woman

"I came to OM when I was stuck in an emotional rut. I had done talk therapy, journaling, retreats, and lots of introspection.  I knew why I was stuc..." READ MORE

A Strong Feminine Aspect

"My whole life has always been this sort of start-stop thing. Whenever a desire was actually met, I would get really anxious and self-sabotage. I wa..." READ MORE

A Great Big Reservoir Inside Me

"From the time I was little, I always oscillated between the extremes of grandiosity and low -- often very low -- self-esteem.  It was hard for me t..." READ MORE

Releasing Old Baggage And Embracing Myself

"To tell you how OM changed things for me, as a physical therapist living in San Francisco, I would have to go way back—to my birth, 60 years ago, i..." READ MORE

OM Has Given New Meaning to My Relationships

"Opening Up to KnowledgeIn my career, I was used to being in a position of authority. I was a military pilot, and then I flew huge airplanes around ..." READ MORE

What to Do with Shame

"I used to set a hard limit on how far I'd let a relationship go. At a certain point, I would always hit the eject button. I knew that eventually, i..." READ MORE

Finding Flow in OM and Life

"I'm a basic kind of guy. Even though I was born with PTSD (based on some things that happened to my mom while she was pregnant), I'm not plagued wi..." READ MORE

I Was 26 Before I Had My First Kiss

"I was 26 before I had my first kiss. That’s a huge part of my story. I grew up feeling like everyone else understood how sex and relationships were..." READ MORE

People Relax Around Me Because I’ve Learned To Accept My Own Feelings

"My first experience with OM was with my ex-wife.  We hadn’t contacted anyone for coaching -  we just had a book with a rather vague two-page descri..." READ MORE

OM Fundamentally Changed the Way I Think

"Six years ago, I was living in New York City.  I was divorced with three kids and had just extricated myself from a long-term relationship that was..." READ MORE

The Body is the Compass

"I grew up Mormon.  There’s a lot of shorthand in saying that.  There were beautiful things about my family growing up, but for the most part, it wa..." READ MORE

I Exuded Joy and Light -- People Could See It

"I didn't find out until late in life that I was pretty severely abused as a child by my mother and sexually abused by my grandfather. I wasn't full..." READ MORE

The Power of Choice

"My early childhood life was very tumultuous, and I experienced a lot of childhood trauma. Sexual trauma was only part of it. There was also a lot o..." READ MORE

Appreciation for Every Moment

"As a young person growing up, I had the idea that in order to be liked I had to somehow prove myself. I also thought it was ideal to be sexual earl..." READ MORE

I Am A Feminine Person

"From the time I was little, I wanted to be close to women. I want to begin my story with that, because that’s tied into everything before I came to..." READ MORE

What I Craved

"I would say a big defining piece of my life before was that I was in two very long relationships with men I loved.  Both of them were people I foun..." READ MORE

How to Be a Man

"When I was young and in school, I adapted to the need to hide my feelings by becoming the class clown, able to dissipate any emotional intensity by..." READ MORE

Shattering The Masks

"I grew up in India where love messaging is very confusing. My parents would punish me by beating me with a belt, all the while saying, “I love you...." READ MORE

The Reborn Engineer

"Ten years ago, I was an electrical/mechanical engineer, and I worked in the oil and gas industry. I’d devoted years of education and hard work to r..." READ MORE

Re-thinking Everything I Thought I Knew

"When it came to sex and romance, I was a late starter.I might have made more progress in high school if it hadn’t been for my father’s relentless t..." READ MORE

Like A Queen On Her Throne

"Like so many girls growing up Catholic, I heard my mom say that sex was bad—a lot—especially if you’re a girl who likes girls. As a result, it was ..." READ MORE

I melted anger and numbness into connection

"Staying ConnectedThere was a time when the only way for me to survive was to numb myself to the world, not just mentally but physically as well. I ..." READ MORE

OM is the foundation of everything I have now

"I came to OM because my relationships weren’t working, and I was exhausted. I’d been beaten up pretty good by life and by my own choices. I got mar..." READ MORE

I Am Better At My Job in Hospitals And I Am Able To Share With People Who I Am

"Before I started the practice of Orgasmic Meditation, I was shutting down emotionally, little by little, closing doors here, closing windows there,..." READ MORE

Unwinding the Teachings of the Church

"When the Matrix came out, 20 years or more ago, I realized how much I identified with Neo. Like Neo, I knew that something was off in the world, so..." READ MORE

OM Peels The Layers Off

"I don't actually remember how I found out about Orgasmic Meditation. But I was living in New York City at the time, and I went to a couple of event..." READ MORE

Learning To Ask For What I Want

"I’m a Melbourne-born Australian, and it comes with a certain amount of cultural freight—namely baggage. While I wasn’t one to make a local tavern m..." READ MORE

Learning to Receive What I Needed Most

"When I was in fourth grade, Katie Campbell taught me to put what she called my “wheelie” under the faucet while taking a bath. (Thank you, Katie --..." READ MORE

Being In Approval Of Men’s Desire

"Of all the ways that Orgasmic Meditation has opened me up—unleashing blocked creativity, overcoming money scarcity and a feeling of deprivation, go..." READ MORE

I Now Have Deep Intimate Relationships With Women

"Growing up in a Catholic family, I was raised to believe that the goal of dating was to just find someone to marry. Sex wasn’t discussed, other tha..." READ MORE